Saturday, April 4, 2009

Comments Here!!

We're going to pretend this little post is our messaging board- work with me, this is the best we could do for now! :) Just add you're comment below to start us off!

20 comments:

  1. Post away, keep it clean please.

    ReplyDelete
  2. The site looks great. You and Jazz did a great job. The information is much easier to access.


    Rodney

    ReplyDelete
  3. The new site looks great! How do I look up the tax returns? I clicked on the link but then didn't know where to go from there. I sit back and chuckle, when I think about the Willys trying to keep up with all our blogs and statements! God Bless!

    ReplyDelete
  4. I think the tax return link expired or something. I have SO much stuff to still get up on this page yet! If all goes well I will have a section just on Financial documents. Everything is public record, It will be nice to have it all in one place so people can easily see and evaluate for themselves.

    ReplyDelete
  5. I just read through the newspaper articles. I like the way you posted them. I hadn't realized that HH was investigated in 1993. I remember Arnette telling me that one time HH had to shut down b/c they were "attacked by the newspapers." Now I understand why they were investigated in 93. Sarah's story is so sad and heartbreaking!

    ReplyDelete
  6. hey i like! i tried to got to another former hephzibah house girls ite. i dont know if i did it wrong or what. it just pulled a window up that said hephzibah. com..i think. but this site looks really pretty

    ReplyDelete
  7. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  8. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  9. ~kevin r smith4/5/09, 6:53 PM

    looks great Susan / Jasmine

    ~kevin r smith

    ReplyDelete
  10. What a wonderful site Suse and with so much information readily available. Great job! BTW, thanks for posting my artwork, they look fantastic against the black background. ~Amy

    ReplyDelete
  11. Hi Everyone! I am hoping you all enjoy the reunion. I'm am with you in spirit!

    ReplyDelete
  12. http://dannimoss.wordpress.com/2009/07/06/alleged-hephzibah-house-abuse-survivors-must-be-silenced/


    Never be silenced again!

    ReplyDelete
  13. I have been helped by the willingness of the survivors' and witnesses' statements here.

    Former Staff... your statements add so much to supporting the girls who were there. Just letting them know that other people saw the evil of the abuse is very comforting.


    Rodney Grotte

    ReplyDelete
  14. Nikki Pondexter12/14/09, 9:20 AM

    It is beyond my answered prayers that we would all come together and share our stories,
    For the longest time I thought I was the only one who struggles with this even years after I had left!
    All that helped with this site has done an amazing job!! The information I have found has blown my mind!!
    Keep up the awsome work!!

    ReplyDelete
  15. Please know that there are many of us reading your site that have seen and experienced life altering consequences wrought by Baptist fundamentalists that prey on young women. My heart goes out to these girls and wish to tell them that the consequences do not affect them alone, but affects the lives of everyone touched by them.

    I met a beautiful, young, woman who was a Baptist funadmentalist and had no understanding about about the abuses in her past prior to marriage. I had to discover the hard way that in a very real sense, she had been brainwashed. As a troubled teen she was placed with a family headed by a Pastor within a Baptist fundamentalist Church near Denver, Colorado. This Pastor insisted on giving this beautiful teenaged girl a bath. Because of the teachings of this sect, she was not allowed to question this abusive practice, and wouldn't admit to sexual relations with this man. The doctrine of funadmentalism disallows young women to disobey any man. My wife was very smart, had graduated from Bob Jones University, but I had no idea just how just how deep the controls had been set. In one instance she submitted to the "ministrations" of her employer, an attorney because she believed that she had to obey according to the scriptures. Needless to say, our marriage died. When I turned to the fundamentalist Baptist Church that we attended for help, the Pastor was vindictive and foisted all of the blame upon the man (me) who was supposed to be the "head of the household." Although this happened 30 years ago, I remember as if it were yesterday, and you never recover.

    It is very sad that this sect continues to damage the lives of young people. I can recall the admonishments from the pulput to beware of all other religions, that they were a cult. Sadly, I had no idea that I stood in the presence of one that would alter and destroy my life forever.

    When I say that my heart goes out to these women, I am speaking from the heart because I understand just how destructive these experiences have been for you and pray that the Lord will heal and take it away.

    Frith

    ReplyDelete
  16. Hello, I surfed in here from another site and I have a question: How in the world has this man and his school not been arrested??? That is what I cannot understand. (I would like to see him locked UNDER the jail.) I cannot understand how anyone can get away with this!!

    ReplyDelete
  17. Looking through these comments and accusations makes me sick. I stayed at Hephzibah House from 1982 to 85 when I graduated. Any thing done there was given consent of the parents. You say you were beaten a paddling here and there especially when I deliberately disobeyed and disrespected my elders. I grew up where I went to school looking like a zebra. Talk about having to eat scrapes cause you are too skinny as I recall you got extras and when cleaning in the kitchen you would flock the leftovers like a fulture. Try prison, I been there, squart and cough with it all hanging out for all to see all up in. Stripping in front of 30 or 50 other women who may be dope sick or looking you over . I learned character building there. I chose to stay long than live with the pain at home. I hope you have peace within. Cause in the end you have to look in the mirror and answer to God.

    ReplyDelete
  18. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  19. Dearest Marjorie, I remember you from Hephzibah House and have longed to talked to you again. Welcome.
    I have never ever forgotten your sweet face. I had no idea what the trauma was that brought you to Hephzibah House and I am so sorry I did not. Sadly I have never met a former student who had not suffered great abuse of some kind before they found themselves at that place. I did know you were strong. I remember you as being quite stoic and I am thrilled to hear from you. Marjorie, you have every right to express a different opinion of the treatment you received at Hephzibah House.

    Regarding Hephzibah House, we may never agree but I would challenge you to honestly deny that you, yourself lost a great deal of weight, that your period stopped, that you went to the blue room to be paddled almost every night when you first arrived because you had too many work duties, that you had no way of communicating with anyone outside Hephzibah House that was not censored or supervised by staff.

    You may believe these tactics were good and helpful in your particular situation. I am glad if your life was somehow improved by your stay there. I firmly believe these very tactics are immoral, illegal and unchristian in every way. I must continue to tell the stories of Hephzibah for the girls there right now who I believe are being damaged.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. When I left in 1985, paddling was hardly ever used due to girls making comments that they would rather be paddled than have duties to do. Also I was only paddled 3 times in the 3 and half years there. One for deliberately pulling a plant out, second for saying F....you that did not hurt and 3rd because someone picked up my dirty clothes that fell out of my bag and put it in my drawer. I have had my period faithfully since I was 12 unless I was pregnant. As a grown woman who has been to Illinois Department of Corrections 4 times all phone calls are monitored stripped searched room searched and then put in solitary if need be where you are schackled 23 out of 24 hours. I know from experience that things could be worse. I may not agree with everything that they do. We need to remember that our parents put us there and I sat there when Pastor went through everything with my parents. I considered sending my daughter there and Pastor sent me a packet and has everything outlined. I will not say you were wrong you are entitled to your opinion and I am not in your shoes. I know for me my life would have been worse.

      Delete

Photos...

http://www.flickr.com/photos/30197283@N06/http://www.flickr.com/photos/30197283@N06/