My daughter is Angela Guest who was listed on your missing site. She has written blogs on formerhephzibahhousegirls.webs.com
I was against sending her to Hephzibah House. Our pastor and Youth Pastor talked my husband into it, and he and I argued until he talked me into it. I never agreed to it even though I gave in. Knowing what I have learned since Angela left there, I wish I had stood by my feelings and not given in. I cried every single day she was gone and prayed constantly. I wonder if she will ever truly be over her experience there.
She had nightmares when she came home and probably still does. She has two beautiful daughters now, and is doing well, but I know she has never forgotten all she endured at Hephzibah House. It breaks my heart that Angela has such deep scars from this experience, and it has affected her trust issues and other areas of her life.
I know that there are good schools out there for dealing with troubled teen girls, but I don't feel that HH is one of them.
My husband also feels badly that he listened to them instead of just praying through the matter and getting GOD's answer. He let them be his "Holy Spirit". I do feel that he gave us some wrong advice. I am still wondering if we should actually tell him how bad Angela was treated at HH. Maybe it would prevent him giving advice to send anyone else there, but I wonder if he would actually believe how bad it was.
Thanks for listening – I know that someone who has been there will understand.
So what are you doing to prevent other girls from being sent to that horrible place? We can appreciate your regret and sorrow - but are standing idly by while other girls are being abused?
ReplyDeleteApparently you didn't care about her that much.
ReplyDeleteHow does it feel to be married to such a piece of shit? You really are a horrible person to ever think that religion was a good idea.
ReplyDeleteYou people need to shut up and stop being nasty to those who have decided to come forward. How is this ever going to stop unless people come forward, confess they were wrong, and tell the truth about what happened? These mothers are doing their best to make amends.
ReplyDeleteI also don't think you understand the degree of victimization that wives undergo in fundamentalist cults like this. The notion of going against the father and the pastor would be unthinkable. It impresses me that they ever break out of the brainwashing enough to speak up like this.
You are not helping. I wish the moderators would delete this garbage.
Your husband needs to know how you both paid to have your daughter molested and abused. Maybe you should actually do something about this to and tell everyone you know about what goes on there instead of just letting others make the same mistake.
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DeleteWhat exactly would you like her to do? I'd be willing to bet she, like most of the parents, had no idea what was going on at that place. I know mine sure didn't. I found all the letters I sent home years afterwards. My mom had kept all of them.....they were so heavily redacted as to be nearly unreadable. You and the other cowards here anonymously spewing venom at these parents is not helping anyone. It's sure not helping me. I would be furious if anyone treated my parents this way. They may have been mistaken, but they were doing the only thing they knew how to try and help me. You strangers....you don't get to stand in judgment here. None of you. You should be ashamed of yourself.
ReplyDeleteExactly there are not many people that know what goes on at that place. It is impossible to know unless you're down there in the basement with those staff members. Even the pastors and the people who run the place don't even know exactly what goes on down there because they are not down there and there was no cameras. They advertise themselves as a loving Christian home. They're using God's name in vain in my opinion.
ReplyDeleteThis is a disgrace to God and should be with anyone that follows him. The parents had no idea and unfortunately their daughters had to live with the abuse that went on. Do not blame the parents. They are all living through the horrific environment that their child was subjected to and feeling guilt along the way.
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